Instead of…

Ways to reframe your thinking and bring more empathy to your architectural practice.

Instead of…
facepalming when someone has made an error or done something you think mindless.

Take a moment to consider…
why they might have thought they were doing the right thing. Did they have enough information? Were they given clear communication? Were they solely to blame?

Then…
take action to support them and explain how it might be done better in the future. How might you prevent that in the future? Rather than berating them.

Instead of…
becoming angry because someone has wronged you in some way

Take a moment to consider…
why might they have thought what they were doing was entirely reasonable?

Then…
make a space to understand if there might have been a misunderstanding, historically or in the present. How might it be amicably resolved instead of amplified?

Instead of…
hating on someone’s apposing viewpoint or opinion.

Take a moment to consider…
where this alternate point of view might come from and why someone might they hold it. What is their world view?

Then…
consider if there’s anything you might need to rethink about your world view?

Instead of…
ignoring someone because they’re annoying.

Take a moment to consider…
why it is they may be acting this way.

Then…
consider how might you help them instead.

Instead of…
belittling someone for their ignorance.

Take a moment to consider…
why this person hasn’t had the opportunity to learn.

Then…
consider how you might more generously teach them.

Instead of…
dismissing someone for any combination of “faults”.

Take a moment to consider…
if you knew what they knew. You believed what they believed. You had experienced what they had experienced. You might do exactly the same thing.

Everyone is irrational.

Everyone has a life as rich and complex as our own. There’s a constant story going on in their heads based on their life lived. Just like you.

Take some time…
To be curious about people. To seek to understand. Consider where they might be right. Ask questions. You might discover when you ask people questions, you’ll find dual understanding, connection and tolerance. We’re all irrational and we’re all human.


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Hi! I’m Michael

I’m an architect and coach, helping the professional culture of the architecture profession. I believe the best way to do this is support leadership development.

I’ve worked in architecture for almost 30 years, and ran my own practice for 14 years. I understand architectural practice from the inside out. Fun Fact: my NSW architect’s registration is #10 007 and I have a license to skill.

I help practices work on their leadership team and strategies. Supporting practices to become more open, fluid, and adaptable. Realising the collective energy, passion, and capabilities of their people.

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